Walking 8 mth old sleeping baby in my arms and a car with illegal pipes rolls up on me .....?

My mother did not like my husband and I had to make a stand I did not talk to her for two years. Now she understand that's it my life not hers. I know what your wife is going thought but one day she will have to make a stand. Their will be no pace in your house in till she do. Talk to her and make her understand that you love her and you want to be home with your family. 12 years is a long time to call it off don't give up and if I was you I would try to move sometimes neighborhoods down hill. Good Luck